We’ve all been hurt. Some of us in the past, some of us in the present, but at some point all of us in the future. Maybe your best friend betrayed you, or your daddy left you, or you were overlooked for that job promotion. No matter the circumstances, it all hurts and it all boils down to rejection. I read about a study the other day where the pain of rejection was actually linked to physical pain, makes sense right? In the moment, that pain of rejection is like a fresh wound; all you can focus on, forgetting that there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. I guess somewhere along the way, we’ve learned to be aware of our own pain and struggles. Even basing how we are and see the world on those things, in our heads we’re the only ones who hurt. We forget that everyone else also has a past filled with circumstances that may have left them a little bruised and worn. God sees us, and all our pain. He sees the pain we cause others, the pain we cause ourselves, and the pain that’s been put on us. He sees all the screwed up things we do, and you know what? He gives us grace. Let’s just take a second dig deeper in that word.
Grace– the free and unmerited favor of God, as manifested in the salvation of sinners and the bestowal of blessings. Originates from the Hebrew word Chen meaning favor.
Free and unmerited? Absolutely. The grace that God gives us, Jesus died for. That grace? It completely covers all of or sins; past, present, and future. See, with God, there is no lack. His fullness can’t be added or subtracted from. It doesn’t rise nor fall with human actions. He’ll be the same God He is today, tomorrow and all of the tomorrow’s after that. Why is that? I can give you the answer in a single word: grace.
If God gives us this amazing gift of grace then why do we interact so poorly with each other? We get so wound up over the rejection from others that we forget that God will never reject us. When you start fully living in your identity in Christ then you start to notice the hurt of others around you. You then start letting God strip away all the layers of self righteousness and selfishness. This is when you learn to fully and freely give grace to others. You have to let God teach you to understand that others hurt just like you, and the hurt they may have caused you probably stems from somewhere in their past they too were hurt. I’m a firm believer in the statement: hurt people, hurt people. If you’re living in hurt, you’re going to cause hurt. It’s unavoidable. But friend, you’ve gotta give that up. Let God wash His mighty grace over all your old wounds.
God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble. James 4:6
Let God humble you, begin freely giving grace. Next time someone throws hurt your way, stop. Stop focusing on your hurt and try to understand theirs. Don’t write them off and exiling them from your life. Instead, pray for them. Try extending them a little sliver of the grace Jesus Christ died for. Speak to people and who they are not what they’ve done. When we start looking at grace like a amazing gift we can freely give, that’s when revival will start. That’s where it’ll change.